Tantrum: How can you cope with it?

Tantrum starts as soon as your little one starts to observe how much attention he or she gets from you when he cry for any reason. It means tantrum starts when your child is still baby (because babies are clever than we imagine) and gets worth when he is a toddler and can reach things, walk by himself, explore.

Tantrums is part of a child development. Is through a tantrum a child bursts of emotion and express her frustration.

When a child have a tantrum the first thing you should try to do make sure she is safe. If you are at home and she's thrashing about, put her in the cot. If you are on the street, consider to hold her in your arms if you need cross the road. If you are in a restaurant, pub or party consider to go out for few minutes or go to the bathroom, garden or any reserved area if it makes you feel embarrassed.

Next thing you should do is try to calm her down and stay calm yourself because despite nasty looks from strangers there is not a lot you can do to stop it once started.
It is important you help your child to calm down but leaving her comfy to learn to calm herself too.

Surprisingly, the biggest cause of babies and toddlers tantrums is;
- Parents not listening to the child and,
- A child not being able to control herself.

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and photo clipartMany outburst can be averted if parents think about how it started because normally they are consequence of their own actions. If you take a child out when she is tired or ignore pleas to fix a toy because you are doing something else.
Try to explain the situation in a way she can understand.

In case the tantrum gets worth and you don't get stopped the next step is distract your baby. This is always the best option but make sure you don't give her a bribe or incentive could reward the behaviour.
Bringing your child into a game, do something funny, ask for help with a chore or task, mind be enough for distract her long enough for she forget what was upset her.

When the tantrum is finally over, try to get things back to normal as quickly as possible, if you show you are cross, your child mind see tantrum as a way of provoking you. Give her a hug if all the issues have been resolved. Don't give her a hug if she still complaining as this could send her a message she was in some way rightto have the tantrum in the first place.


Fussy babies and toddlers eaters


girl unhappy at plate of Brussles sproutsFussy eaterIt is very common for babies and toddlers to be fussy eaters at some point of childhood. It happen suddenly and sometimes it is connect to a change in the eating habits such as when they starts to feeding themselves or drink from a cup instead bottle or not,  they suddenly just start to refuse foods they used to love.

Changing habits it will be a gradual process but if you focus on the positives and avoids turning meal times into a battle and distress moment you can  instead finish a meal frustrated encourage your child to come back eat old favourite and try new foods as well.

Some tips that can help you to copy with fussy eaters babies and toddlers;

· Patience is the first step because even though you think this is your problem and none of the others mums you know have the same problem, they have or had at sometime.
·         When the food is ready, don’t come to the table angry or anxious because your baby will get these feelings from you.
·         Sit together at the table in a way your baby can see everyone eating the same food as him and enjoying the meal.
·         Presenting your toddler with a mountain of food can overwhelming and put him off even trying to eat is not a good idea. Serve up small portions in a nice presentation.
·         Try to offer him milk from a cup and do not fill him up on milk because he won’t be hungry for solid food. Alternatively, give him milk 0ne and a half hour after solid food instead before.
·         Combine new foods with old favourites it is also a good thing to try.
·         If your baby has missed a meal  and is tempting to give him a biscuits and crisps give him instead healthy and nutritious            snacks  like cheese, breadsticks, hummus and pitta. In order to avoid spoiling your child’s appetite, don’t offer snacks close to mealtimes.
·         A hungry child is less fussy child so he’s likely to eat better at the next mealtime. Changing his eating habits will take time but, with patience and praise you can encourage him try new flavours.
·         When your baby or toddler refuses to eat, simply remove his plate calmily. Ignore any fussy behaviour so he learns it won’t get him any attention. But give him  lots of praise when he does try something new.